I recently had several conversations with other mothers who have boys, conversations that swirled around boy behavior and the swift suggestions of attention deficit hyperactivity disorderand medication. We talked about how our boys behave, and wondered what medication would help and what it would take away. 

My boys are fidgety, forgetful, goofy; distracted, bossy, competitive; daydreaming, messy, impulsive. Sometimes these qualities don't jive with the average American elementary school.